I have to admit, when I was pregnant and they first told us we were having a boy I had a small internal panic attack. I thought to myself “I can’t be a mom to a boy; I have no idea what to do!” In my mind I thought I could be a better mom to a little girl than I could ever be to a boy.
I thought everything girly. I thought of tutus, hair bows, French braids, baking, playing with dolls and house. I thought pink and frills and all things sparkly & shiny. I didn’t think I could do monster trucks and Legos, playing in the mud and ripped knees in jeans and building things with tools. I for about a day freaked out on the inside. I didn’t want to be judged for my feelings by my family and friends so I kept all of this to myself. I didn’t want to hear how much easier it was to raise a boy than it was a girl. I want to make one thing very clear here I was NOT disappointed we were having a boy I was just unsure of MY abilities on being a mom to a boy! But who is to say that if we had a girl if I wouldn’t have felt the exact same way about having a girl.
I quickly got over that and decided that no matter what I did I was going to be a good mom to my son. He and I were learning this new life together. This relationship between a mom and her son is unlike anything else on the face of this Earth. I don’t have to be good at Legos or monster trucks. I don’t have to deal with ripped jeans much yet. I worried for nothing, like most things I worry about. Zach loves me of who I am. His love is unconditional it is amazing. My love for him surpasses any love I ever thought possible.
But my friends we have entered new territory at our house. Unfound territory for me and I find myself once again freaking out. I know what the books and our pediatrician say to do in regards to this new phase we find ourselves but still I am freaking out none the less.
My son has figured out how to take his clothes off. I know this is normal but when home Zach prefers to be sans clothes but still is not interested in potty training. I am at a loss on how to guide him through this phase. He has not yet attempted to take his clothes AND diaper off anywhere but at home. So in that sense I am glad he feels comfortable to discover his new independence at home but I have two fears. The biggest one is what if he tries to do this NOT at home. I have images of my son’s tiny tush running around all neeked in Target! AHHHHH!!!! And two with him still not interested in the potty he has peed his bed twice in one night because he took his clothes off in the middle of the night and I had no idea until the morning when I woke up.
If we are friends on Facebook you know I asked about this the other day and got a lot of good advice for night time but I can’t figure out how to keep clothes on this kid during the day while at home! HA!
I was not prepared for this. This came out of left field and I don’t know how to be a mom in this situation. I am at a loss on how to teach him when it’s appropriate to take our clothes off and when it is not.
He has also discovered his peepee in a new way. So, how do CJ & I navigate this new territory with a two year old? I don’t want to discourage him and make him feel like he is doing something bad. But I also want to instill in him that no one else is to touch him there other than his care givers* during diaper changes when cleaning him. Our pediatrician has ensured us this is a phase most kids go through, a phase of discovering themselves and to just instill that it is ok and that no one else is to touch them like that. But how do you make this message clear to a 2 year old!
All I can do is try my hardest and hope this is a short phase. I can tell him each time to go to his room in private, that no one else is touch him there. I have to keep telling him that when we leave the house we have to keep our clothes on.
I know I am a good mom to a boy now I have figured that out for a while now but this… this is new. And like everything else with parenting we need to take it one day at a time. But if ya’ll have any other advice I would greatly appreciate it.